上海中学国际部初中段家长课堂

12月1日晚6：30，国际部初中段第二期家长课堂准时上线。本次活动再次邀请郭峰博士做客心理讲堂，同初小段心理老师孙凡帆一同探讨青春期孩子和家长沟通中的普遍困扰。

活动以访谈形式在轻松自如的环境下分别针对家长之前的反馈做出了一一解答，问题包括“孩子表现出对于问题片面的理解”该如何引导，“孩子拒绝沟通怎么办”，“孩子情绪化持续的时间”，“电子产品的使用”，“家长如何调节自己在孩子人际关系网中的位置”，“家长和学生如何感知压力”，“家长该如何识别以及实施帮助”等。

活动中郭峰博士给到了许多易于操作的小贴士。

首先对于情绪问题的处理，要秉持理解包容的心态，先让孩子自我平复。也许只是静静的陪伴，也许是通过行为让孩子知道，“我在倾听你”，“我会包容你的情绪”，“你的情绪是正常的”。等孩子平复下来之后，再尝试让孩子打开心扉。

当谈及与青春期孩子沟通时的底线问题，郭峰博士认为，应该与孩子一起建立底线，而非简单地将家长对孩子的期待当做底线。与孩子一起设定目标是一个好的方法，可以让家长和孩子站在同一阵营，为良好的亲子关系共同努力。

针对青春期的孩子自制力弱，容易对电子游戏上瘾这一问题，郭峰博士指出，家长可以帮助孩子丰富自己的生活，让电子游戏成为孩子的喜好之一。但如何让学习成为孩子的爱好呢？这就需要家长们引导孩子关注自我价值的实现。但讲道理的方式往往会适得其反，放手让孩子去探索可能是最有效的道路。

最后郭峰教授认为，良好的亲子关系需要家长的主动参与和调节。若家长始终保持情绪的稳定，成为孩子的靠山和坚不可摧的港湾，那么很多问题便都迎刃而解。

本次家长课堂中，两位专业老师的对谈使得对问题的探讨更加深入，对问题的解决更加具有操作性，受到了线上家长们的热烈好评。希望这些小妙计能够帮助家长们游刃有余地处理这些问题，共建和谐的亲子关系。

At 6:30 p.m. on December 1, the second middle school parents’ workshop was launched. This time we again invited Dr. Guo Feng as the lecturer, and together with Ms. Sun Fanfan, the psychology teacher of SHSID middle and primary school, they discussed the common problems in the communication between adolescent children and parents. 

In the form of interviews and in a relaxed environment, they answered the previous feedback of parents one by one, including “How to guide children so their understanding of problems won’t be one-sided?” “What to do if children refuse to communicate?” “Children can be emotional for how long?” “How to appropriately use electronic products?” “How can parents adjust their position in their children’s interpersonal network?” “How can parents and students perceive pressure?” “How can parents identify and implement help?” and more. 

During this activity, Dr. Guo Feng gave many easy-to-use tips. First of all, when dealing with emotional problems, we should adhere to the attitude of understanding and tolerance, and let the child calm down first. Maybe it’s just quiet company, or let the child know through behaviors: “I’m listening to you,” “I’ll tolerate your emotions,” “your emotions are normal.” After the child calms down, try to let the child open their heart. When talking about the bottom line communicating with adolescent children, Dr. Guo Feng believes that we should establish the bottom line with children, rather than simply regard parents’ expectations for children as the bottom line. Setting goals with children is a good way to let parents and children stand in the same camp and work together for a good parent-child relationship. 

Regarding the problem that adolescent children have weak self-control and are easy to become addicted to video games, Dr. Guo Feng pointed out that parents can help children enrich their lives and make video games only one of their children’s preferences. But how to make learning into a child’s hobby? This requires parents to guide children to pay attention to the realization of self-worth. However, the way of reasoning is often counterproductive, letting children explore may be the most effective way. 

Finally, Professor Guo Feng believes that a good parent-child relationship requires parents’ active participation and adjustment. If parents always maintain emotional stability and become their children’s backer and indestructible harbor, many problems will be solved. In this parents’ workshop, the conversation between the two professional teachers made the discussion more in-depth and the solution of problems more practical, which was warmly praised by parents online. We hope these tips can help parents deal with these problems with ease and build a harmonious parent-child relationship.